Coincidence, miscalculation, curse or blessing?
Another day, another engagement.
It seems all my female friends are in a hurry.
Is it societal pressure or is it just the right time?
I meet them today, we get along the next day, two days after they hand me a wedding I.V.
Please, I won’t be able to attend. You don’t want to see a grown man break into tears as you walk down the aisle🤔.
Should I start making friends with way younger ladies🤷? Can we even operate on the same frequency?
My married friends are wondering why I stay away but the truth isn’t far-fetched.
I try to stay sane and focus on other things but everyone else thinks I’m not making adequate efforts.
“Is he gay?”
“Could it be poverty holding him back?”
“Something must be wrong with him.”
Everyone has a question. Everyone came with a bag of opinions. No one seems to have the answers.
There are so many other things to be bothered about but we choose to over-flog this issue of ‘settling down’.
It seems like the mediocre Nigerian standard for success is:
- Graduate from a tertiary institution.
- Secure a job.
- Rent an apartment.
- Buy a car.
- Get married.
Sadly, this unhealthy standard has become so normalized in many families and we now have many young people who can’t think beyond the aforementioned points.
People will never stop calculating the money they think you have in your account and what they think you should do with it.
After getting married, what next?
Don’t tell me ‘give birth to children’